
“A Marriage is fixed in heaven but is solemnized on earth”, goes the saying. You are about to hear the wedding bells ring .Plan, prepare, shop, arrange, organize, but don’t forget some etiquettes. Wedding etiquettes can be varied different for different aspects of the celebrations. They are different for people playing different roles. So what role are you playing in the party at hand? So here are some etiquettes to be followed to make the ceremony a cherished affair for all and sundry.
Who pays for what in the occasion?
The bride’s side pays for the groom’s ring, invitation cards, thank you cards/gifts, favors, reception costs, bride’s trousseau, church fees, flowers for church, bridesmaid, and reception, church fee, music for the ceremony, the groom’s gift, transportation for bridal party, gifts for bridesmaids, lodging for them etc.
The groom’s side pays for the bride’s ring, clergy fee, marriage license bride’s bouquet, corsage and boutonnieres, rehearsal dinner, a gift for the bride, Transportation and lodging for groomsmen and their gifts. They also pay for the honeymoon.
Invitation card
The invitation card needs to be sent well in advance. Offer a separate response card along with the invitation card, with a self addressed and stamped envelope that allows your invitee to easily respond. Mention all the information clearly , mention the dress code or theme of the wedding if any. Those invited for the bridal shower should also be invited for the ceremony. If you don’t want children around you can convey this by word of mouth or may write in a humble manner in the card for example, “We would like the two of you to grace the ceremony. “.You can also write, “Adult Reception..”
Your officiant and his better half gets an invitation. Avoid inviting on the phone.
Reception seating plan
The seating plan should be done judiciously. You can have friends seated together. Family can also be seated together but never seat incompatible people together as they may feel odd. After all everyone needs to enjoy on the auspicious occasion.
Wedding etiquettes for Maid of honor bridesmaid, Best man, groomsmen, ushers.
The maid of honor and the best man play a major and responsible role in helping the bride and the groom with the planning, preparations and the ceremony. They also help in the pre wedding events and the engagement ceremony.
The maid of honor carries the groom’s ring while walking down the aisle. She helps the bride in getting dressed up. She will help with the train and the veil. She sees to it that the bride is cool and composed on her fateful day. She caters to all the needs of the bride .She carries a kit handy for any emergency. The kit should have needle and thread, rolls of tissue, make up items and the like.
The best man arranges for the accessories of groomsmen and ushers at the wedding. Thus the maid oh honor, best man, bridesmaid, groomsmen and ushers play a vital role before, during and after the wedding.
Etiquettes for the bride and the groom
Its your great day to enjoy and have fun but you have a bigger role to play, as a host .
Your first duty is your guests. Keep their comfort and happiness in mind. You will be too busy on the wedding day so arrange for some help ahead of time.
Wait until all your guests have arrived. Bride or groom should never overtly ask for presents but can suggest needs if asked. Mind you, you are not supposed to open the gifts in front of the guests.
For the dancing appoint someone to call you and your partner on the dance floor. As you have fun try visiting each table at least once for a quick and loving greeting .Be generous and have snaps clicked with them. This will make them happy and you too.
An indispensable etiquette is to send thank you cards/gifts to your guests who spared their precious time to attend your wedding and bestowed you with exquisite gifts. If possible hand written thank you cards have special importance for guests.
Etiquettes for guests
The easiest job is to be the guest but you too have responsible role to play. Reply to the invitation card .Abide by the theme and dress code. Buy the couple a gift which both the partners can use. It is advisable to give cash gifts for out of town guests as gift transportation can be additional burden on the couple. Don’t wear white to the wedding as that’s the bride’s color for the day. Avoid black either as it is not considered auspicious in some ethnic groups.. It is risqué on your part to bare shoulders during the auspicious ceremony.
Be on time. If you are tardy don’t disturb the ceremony ,find a seat for yourself quickly and quietly or witness the function from a distance.
Don’t expect that the couple knows you. Introduce yourself and greet and congratulate the newly weds with a gift. Offer a few quick words, expressing your happiness and good wishes for a happy union.
Keep restraint on the eating and drinking part too. An open bar is no reason to overindulge. Limit the consumption of spirits to the minimum
Be a good guest. Observe all the etiquettes. Thank the host before leaving and compliment them for hosting a wonderful and joyful party. Tell them it was a pleasure attending their moment of joy and the arrangements were fantastic.
All in all , each and every person in the party needs to follow his or her etiquettes to make the occasion a memorable one for the couple as well as the guests.